Does it seem as though your ex boyfriend is distancing further away from you no matter how much you make an effort to win him back? Are you are at the end of your rope looking for some guaranteed way that will win his heart back?

You may be experiencing the usual heartbreak feelings right now, it looks as though your world has come to a halt. You may be questioning yourself where you went wrong, even trying to pinpoint one specific event in your mind that will help explain why just days ago you were boyfriend/girlfriend and now he is your ex. You have come to the conclusion that calling it quits was a wrong decision and now you want him back. Sound Familiar? If so, read on.

The good news is that there are a few steps, if adopted correctly, will significantly improve your chances of getting back together again.

1) The first thing you need to do is to completely separate yourself, emotionally, from your ex for awhile. As hard as this may seem, there is a purpose behind it and that is that it will help you to be more successful in winning your boyfriend back. Perhaps you have been trying to contact your ex too much, texting him, calling him, leaving voice mails and writing letters. As a final attempt you are trying to get him to feel sorry for you, hoping this will make him come back to you. This will not work and you need to put an end to it now. You need to completely cut yourself off from your ex so that you can focus your energy on your next move in getting your exboyfriend back – the correct way. Yes, this will be a challenging time for you but it will be well worth it since you will be doing the right actions that will motivate your ex to come back to you rather than drive him further away.

2) The next thing that will happen is that your ex boyfriend will take notice that you have stopped pursuing him, he will start to experience his own shift in emotions. You see when you pursue him and he pushes you away, he is in control. By leaving him alone, you now have control, your ex will soon start to realize that you have left for good and he will now start wondering what you are feeling and thinking. You will now have a mysterious ‘appeal’ and your ex will now be in a position where he will start to miss you, which would not be the case if you were bugging him all the time with text messages and voice mails. Get it?

3) If you have successfully gotten through the first two steps, congratulations! It takes a lot of self-discipline to get to this point, keep at it, your reward is around the corner! By this point you may have learned that by doing the exact opposite of what you want to do is actually working better. You see, when it comes to reconciling with an ex you are dealing with human nature and you need to work with it rather than against it. Ever heard of the expression “If you love someone, set them free”? There is truth in that expression and you will soon see why. This is the stage where you just let the pot simmer, so to speak, simply do nothing and wait. You need to allow you ex to process all the emotions he must going through right about now. This is the stage where he will start to remember why he loved you in the first place and all the good times you had together.. By doing this you are giving him time to reflect, soon he will forget the incident that led up to your break-up and start remembering the good old days with you. These pleasant memories will make him want to revive the old flame by getting back with you. You need patience during this stage, this process may take some time, but you need to follow through..

Always remember to stay level-headed during this process. The challenge is going against what you want to do which is to call and text your ex boyfriend a hundred times because you want fast results, you do not want to play the waiting game.. As much as you are tempted to do this, don’t! You will not win him back with these desperate attempts. You need to allow him his space and the time to reflect on the good times you had together and not come across as a crazy ex who is now stalking him.Going about it the right way may seem harder, but it is well worth the effort if you end up with what you want — your ex boyfriend back!

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